Now that I having your attention I should mention that this post is not about you embracing your inner porn star. It’s more about embracing fitness as an integral part of your sexual performance, thereby, ensuring that your partner or partners (whatever floats your boat my friend. I’m not here to judge you) have a complete and enjoyable experience. Simplified, we want to meliorate your bedroom swagger!
“I don’t know what you talkin’ ’bout partner, I handle my business in the bedroom!” I have never in my life met a man that admitted to being a lousy lover. I have, however, met plenty of women who have complained about mediocre Casanovas. So somewhere, somehow there is a disconnect. Well my dude, it’s time to Man Up and get real with yourself. Are you fit enough to go the distance?
It is no secret that exercise is good for you. It keeps your heart healthy, increases stamina, strengthens muscle and enhances flexibility. And it makes your sex life better. Studies show that men and women who were more physically fit rated their own sexual performance higher.
Exercise means more sex. I kid you not. The reasons for this are not clear but research does show that the more a person exercises, the more sex he or she tends to have. It also enhances sexual aging. A study that examined sexual frequency and satisfaction ratings of swimmers age 60 found that their ratings were similar to those 20 years younger.
And then there is Erectile Dysfunction. For many men our age, ED is more a reality than it is an office joke. You can help avoid the condition if you keep the blood flowing to your “little buddy” (insert giggle here) without interruption. Blocked arteries, high blood pressure and other cardiovascular issues can interfere with blood flow. Regular exercise reduces the risk of ED by keeping the heart and arteries healthy.
Hitting the gym also boosts the sex hormone, testosterone. A Baylor University study found that men’s testosterone levels were highest during the 48 hours after they lifted weights. Additionally, a study conducted by the New England Research Institute documented that a man’s waist size correlates with his testosterone levels. They found that a waist size larger than 41 inches was a better indicator of low testosterone levels than overall weight.
Being fit also gives you options in the bedroom. A stronger, more flexible you leads to exploration beyond the missionary position. If you’re doing it right, sex can be an intense, physically demanding activity requiring strength and endurance. With increased strength and endurance comes the possibility for more varied sexual positions that require greater physical control. Can a brother get an “amen” ladies?
A key to good sexual experiences is actually feeling sexy. Being fit helps you feel sexy. People who exercise have an improved body image over people who don’t exercise. Having confidence in your appearance leads to better and more relaxed sex. You are less likely to think about the bits and pieces of your body that bother you and more likely to give attention to the task at hand…pleasing your partner. Like most things in life, self-confidence leads to exceptional performance. A study showed that more physically fit men and women rated their own sexual desirability higher than less active men and women. 80% of men and 60% of women who exercised two to three times weekly rated their own sexual desirability as above average. If you don’t think that you are desirable, why should your partner? They are going to buy what you are selling and if you are selling a sad state of affairs, the outlook for the evening will be pretty grim.
It’s never too late to start reaping all of the benefits of exercise. Increased muscle tone, improved stamina, better blood flow, developed agility and self-confidence will lead to better sex. My mission in the bedroom is to be the last one standing. As I was fooling around with Mrs Lee trying to set some expectations for the evening, she looked at me, shook her head and said referring to my energy, “I don’t know what I’m going to do with your old ass.” Mission accomplished.
Published by Joe "Bleezie"
A public media professional living in Central New York. I blog about lifestyle and personal growth. Host of Life in HD, Pop Life, and The 315 podcasts (links in "Websites")
About The Making Of A Miscreant:
The Making Of A Miscreant is my deconstructed memoir. It's a collection of stories from events in my life that I believe have significantly contributed to the man that I am today.
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